Sacred Exploration

If you wonder if there might be more to your erotic potential - welcome! This page is for you.

Our ideas about sexuality can get so focused on what to put where, when and with whom, that we can forget our naturally playful, sensual, erotic nature. We can forget that magical bright-eyed wonder of discovering a hidden treasure. For many, that sense of play is a distant memory. For others, it may be hard to imagine.

Full-hearted and open exploring will help you enrich your connection with spirit, develop your own resources for sustenance and pleasure, strengthen your emotional integrity, increase your relationship and intimacy skills, and nourish your erotic confidence and body wisdom.

Hidden Treasure

Exploring means going places we've never gone before, just to find out what's there.

We might try an experience that is new, or we may go to a familiar activity but with a different intention, or with more compassion. Sometimes the exploring may include only our selves, and other times may include others. Sometimes treasures can be found through skilled touch and body work, other times through interactive play.

What, exactly, is this wonderful body capable of? How do I know what I desire? What is underneath that scary edge? How deeply can I surrender? Whats it feel like to take charge? Does giving feel different than receiving? Can I do both at once?

Like pleasure, play and exploration are part of your human nature. Learning to relax into your body's natural playfulness can bring creativity and authenticity to every area of your life.

Fantasy and Role Play

Everyone has sexual fantasies. (You didn't think you were the only one, did you?) If you are willing to follow, they will lead you right to the part of you that is seeking your own loving awareness. Every time. That's why they're "hot" - they are trying to get your attention!

Acting them out in the real world is not helpful - even if you get something close to what you want. At best, it doesn't meet your real need, so you end up confused and frustrated. At worst, it becomes hurtful to you or someone else.

When using fantasy in our sessions, we begin by talking about what, exactly, is the "heat" in your story. We don't analyze it; we simply try to get to the heart of it. Then we create the characters, and see where they lead us! Throughout, we pay attention to what you are feeling and what you need. Though the story can take surprising turns, it is our job to be sure we stick to the agreements and boundaries we have set. This creates the safety for you to truly let go and play.

The characters allow hidden parts of you to be seen and experienced, which brings insight and empowerment. Some fantasies involve actual life experiences that you would like to re-live with a different outcome, or with personal skill and power you didn't have at the time. Some take on things you would never do in real life, for very good reasons, but which still have something to teach you. Some fantasies tap into archetypes like the queen or the captive, and lead to profound insights about life. Some are just for fun - and some characters ask to come back and play again!

Does this mean that if you "work through" all your fantasies, you won't have any more really good hot ones to play with? Not at all! It means that they deliver their gifts and become part of your play repertoire. And don't worry. All indications are that there is an endless supply!

Fantasy can be a great way to play with a trusted lover or friend, as long as you are both clear about your intentions and your boundaries. Remember to talk thoroughly about what you are seeking, agree on the story line, and have clear signals for time-out or quitting. Then let your characters play! It's important to come back later, talk about what you learned, and clear up any questions.